Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Positive Thinking

Are you a fickle fan? Do you jump on the bandwagon when the going is good?

I don’t know if being a positive person is something that I’ve necessarily strived for, however I have been told that it is a trait that I possess and I am thankful for that. I don’t know if I have to remind myself to stay positive or if it just comes natural. Believe me, I have my moments: moments of self pity, of sadness, of defeat. However, they never seem to last very long for me. I naturally find it easy to see the bigger picture and that things could always be worse! Granted that I’ve been blessed to have an amazing life that with only minor incidents, I am a firm believer that you don’t have to look very far to see someone worse off than you.

It’s as simple as sports fans. I went to a Flames game a few weeks ago and was appalled when at the end of the game (which by the way the Flames did basically hand the win over to the opposing team) the Flames fans began booing. What kind of a fan is that? You say you love the team and you’ll be the first guy whooping it up on the Red Mile when the Flames make the playoffs, yet here, when your team just faced a defeat, you boo them for it?!?!?

The world of Facebook allows us wear our heart on our sleeves, or should I say, on our profiles. I find it so interesting to read everyone’s status. You can get a real understanding of a person’s true personality and overall outlook on life if you take a look at their status history. Are they always complaining? Do bad things ALWAYS seem to happen to them? Or are they always upbeat? Do they have positive statements and thoughts? The ones that I get the greatest kick out of are the ones that praise positive thinking when the going is good. They are thankful for everything in their life that day because it’s a good day. (Which by the way, being thankful for everything you have is the way to attract more positive energy in your life). Yet, the very next day, when the going is not so good, these people are the first to get down on life, be mad at the world and to blame everyone around them and complain about how crappy their day is, their week is, their year is!!

Want to know what I feel is the best way to attract positive energy in your life? Be thankful for what you have, even when you are feeling down. Even when things have crumbled, be thankful for what you do have, even if it’s the simplest thing: Today, I have breath!!!!

Ever start your day off bad and you say to yourself, this is going to be a crappy day. And surprise, surprise!?! The whole day turns out to be crappy! Best way to confirm a crappy day: tell everyone on Facebook! Ha ha Have you ever said to yourself, okay, that sucked, but this is going to be a good day and make a conscious effort to look forward to it being a good day.

A friend’s recent status caught my eye recently and it really struck home. Her status said ‘took off my grumpy pants’!! YAY!!! Why can’t we all do that!?!?!? I love that she acknowledged she was having a bad day and made a conscious effort to remove her ‘grumpy pants’ and to commit to making her day better. We all have ‘off’ days. So why not try this next time you are having a grumpy day. Commit to taking off your grumpy pants. Now just think how pleasant and upbeat the world would be if we could all make that commitment!!

So just some food for thought, don’t be one of those fans that jump on board only when the going is good. Be thankful for what you have when you know you have a lot. More importantly, be thankful for what you do have, even if you don’t feel like you have anything. Realize positive thinking is most important when the going is not so good. And remember thoughts are things and words have power!!!

You can decide what kind of a day you are going to have!!

What kind of energy are you going to attract today?

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

The Matriarch Grandmother

I have been so very blessed to have grown up with both sets of grandparents. I was lucky enough to live only a few miles from my mom's parents so spent a lot of time with them. My grandparents are the most special people and are truly the pillars of our amazing, strong, fun family and have set a great example of how to live a full life with values and to respect everyone around you.

Last week my grandma, the still vibrant, active, quick-witted 84 year old suffered a stroke. She was very fortunate that it was fairly minor (in comparison to several other patients in her ward at the hospital). She's had her ups and downs and as of most recently - up! She can walk, talk and is still just as sharp as ever. She has lost use of her left arm but as of yesterday could wiggle a few fingers. We are definitely hoping for further recovery of her mobility.

**Just a side note to share her still quick witted mind, as she was sitting in a chair one day and my aunt was curling her hair, her non-mobile left arm slipped off to the side. As she was reaching over trying to grab a hold of it with her right hand, she was saying 'You get back here'!**

I was blessed to get to spend some time with grandma in the hospital. That afternoon she was very tired and was not having one of her best days. She mostly slept and I spent quite a bit of time just looking at my amazing Grandma that I love so much! I can remember her saying one day that if she's ever in the hospital, to just play with her hair. She loves it. At one point, as I was stroking her hair to help her get back to sleep, I had a weepy moment. Just thinking about her strength, her love, her understanding, her compassion and her never ending giving to all those around her. Now, in this moment, it was her turn to let someone give to her.

I came across this on a website with the posting 'The Matriarch Grandmother' by Russel Mosley and thought it was ever so fitting. She will always be the Matriarch Grandmother in our family.


The matriarch grandmother has been the glue and support of the family structure for thousands of years. Her strength exist in her ability to bring clarity to the challenges and blessings encountered by her family. She is often a silent leader. Bypassing the opportunity to pass judgment on those that have chosen to perform less than she would expect of them. Instead she offers them love and guidance during those times most needed. Encouraging the quality efforts of those that have chosen to lead their life in way that honors her expectations.

She is a proud grandmother, that will do anything for her family.

She has faith in the ability of her family to achieve greatness. Though the world may sometimes offer a difference in opinion, to her the world has no control over the ability of her family to prosper when they are joined together as one. The challenges of the world are minimized at her kitchen table. Her meals bring refuge in a way that only her family and friends have had the benefit to appreciate. Through her recipes, the sun shines brighter, the birds sing louder and the flowers bloom quicker. Even in these amazing feats, the effects of her love can still not be measured.

Through her love she shares her wisdom on such topics as finance, relationships, health and faith in a way that brings joy and hope into the lives of her family.

From her meeting place, the kitchen table, she prepares more than just meals. She shares the wisdom of life as it has always been, still is and always will be. She creates an atmosphere that makes you wish that time could both, stand still and rewind in an instance.

When you visit this matriarch grandmother, her arms are always opened wide, her smile is always shining bright and her love is always flowing. Though she will not always be physically present in our lives, what she has taught us will never die.

For many of us that have become great leaders in our lives, she was our first example of how leadership can effect another persons life.

What a blessing it has been to be a grandchild of a matriarch grandmother.

Friday, January 8, 2010

What a way to end!

First of all I must apologize to all my blog followers (like the whole 2 of you that read this, ha ha) for not updating this for the past few weeks.  I will however try to be better and doing regular updates.

Well another year is in the books and it was ended with another holidays season full of blessings.  Dustin and I were very busy with lots of fun family gatherings.  We are so blessed to have so many wonderful people in our lives and were joyed to get to celebrate the holiday season with them all!!

The 19th was spent with my mom's side of the family.  It was our usual loud, busy, fun, food filled get-together.  We had a great time catching up and had lots of laughs over our gift exchange.  The new generation of kids (as my generation still feels like the kids even though most of us have their own kids) got to partake in one of my favorite activities as a kid.  Being pulled on the toboggon by a real powerful, one horse power machine, ha ha  My dad used to pull us behind the horse a lot when we were kids and I loved it.  I'm sure he wasn't pulling the kids as fast as we used to go.  There were 2 horeses and 10 kids



The 24th was spent with my family.  We had a yummy lasagna meal (trying to switch up the usual traditional turkey dinner).  We opened gifts and got spoiled.  Played some games, watched a movie and got ready for Santa with the kids.  I got to read the kids The Christmas Story before they wisked off to bed before being seen by Santa.





After watching the kids open their stocking, we headed to Dustin's parents house to spend some time with his family.  The tree was overflowing with gifts.  We were all spoiled!  Then we headed to his aunt and uncles house in Calgary for a yummy turkey dinner.



The 26th we went to Dustin's aunt and uncles house for the famous Boxing Day party with a bunch of his family and family friends.  It was heaps of fun and I can see why it's something Dustin looks forward to every year.  Dustin took part in the poker game and I enjoyed a copule reall fun games that required blurting out answers.  So of course I was good at that!!  Any game that cane make use of my big mouth is always a good time!!! ha ha

The 27th my mom hosted my Dad's side of the family Christmas.  It was great catching up with everyone that we don't see very often.  And in tradition, we played a game of Scatagories.  It was lots of fun with many laughs.  At one point I thought my mom was going to loose it she was laughing so hard at one of Dustin's answers (it made her blush a bit).

The 28th we got to celebrate my favorite little guy!  Cayden is 7!!  He had a awesome cowboy themed birthday party and was spoiled rotten.


We rang in the new in year in fine style.  We went to a friends place for a Super Hero themed party (which we remembered only that afternoon.  Unfortunetly for me, it takes me a month to be creative.  So I was Super Sport and just wore a sporty outfit with a towel as a cape.  Dustin on the other hand is very creative, even last minute.  He went as Captain Canada.  Our other friends planned ahead and had great costumes.





Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Tis The Season of Giving

Christmas time! They say it's the season of giving! Unfortunately, that idea has been misconstrued into spending hundreds, and even thousands of dollars on gifts for every man, woman, child and dog in your life.

I love love love giving someone just the right gift that you know they'll love and getting to watch their reaction as they open it. For me, when you find the perfect gift, price doesn't matter (to a point). Whether it's $10 or $100, it's worth it to see their reactions. However a recent conversation with a friend brought up the controversy of prices of gifts. Her lucky husband is lavished with amazing expensive gifts that are just perfect for him. For her, price doesn't matter, it's seeing the look on his face. I told her I agree, but only to a point. Because if I spend too much money just to see the happy look on their face that one day, they'll have to suffer seeing my poor sorry face the whole rest of the year because I ran out of money!!! ha ha

Where I run into struggles with the 'season of giving' is when you are suppose to buy someone a gift and you have no idea what to give them so you basically just run out and grab the best (and let's be honest, the quickest) thing that you can find. For me this totally takes away that wonderful feeling of giving. I figure you might as well just chuck their gift at them and say, 'fine, here's your damn sweater'. Isn't the idea of giving is that it's something you know will bring them joy and happiness, not because you are 'suppose' to give them something. Maybe I’m old school, but when I’m in a bind with what to give someone, I like to give them homemade baking. I’m not sure if everyone appreciates it, but to me it shows much more time and caring, then just grabbing the quickest thing at the mall as you race through it to finish your shopping. I love a homemade special baking (I can’t say the same for my hips though).

For me, the true meaning of Christmas is the gift of time. It's not just about spending money on everyone, but spending the time with family and friends. My holiday season is jam packed full of many different festive gatherings. And although it’ll be a busy run, I am so blessed that I have so many special people in my life to share it with and I look forward to each and every day this season!

I know a family that has definitely figured out the gift of time! Instead of buying a gift for whose name you draw, you are to spend a day with that person. Unfortunately, and most honestly, I’m pretty sure everyone has that one family member that they’d prefer not to have to spend a day with, ha ha. But hey, let’s be optimistic. Maybe you’d find a new found appreciate for the person they are. Anyway, this family got creative!! The mother got her sons name and since he loves pickled carrots and beans, they spent the day together pickling. The son-in-law drew his mother-in-law and knowing her adrenaline junkie side, took her zip lining. A brother-in-law drew his sister-in-law and they took a nice serene kayak trip. I just love this idea of Christmas giving!

I think there’s no better way to give the gift of giving then to volunteer your time. This is something that we can do all year round is so many different ways. Although the holiday season is a time that volunteering is definitely in need. For the past 2 years I have been blessed to volunteer with the Olds and District Christmas Angels. They work all year gathering food, clothes, toys and supplies for those in need. I helped out yesterday as people came in to pick up their pre-packed and organized hampers as well as delivering hampers to those unable to come and pick up. I love the feel of knowing you are helping to help make this a special Christmas for them and their family! It warms your heart as you bring in the many boxes full for them and seeing their look of amazement and gratitude on their faces. My goal for 2010 is to do more volunteering throughout the year!

My mom’s side of the family has come up with an idea that I love. We enjoy the gift of giving and of the time spent with each other. Instead of doing the usual Pirates (or Chinese) gift exchange each year, where we'd all spend $20 to attempt to find just the right thing for whoever may end up with your gift, only for everyone to come home with some piece of crap that we'd never use and ends up in our garage sale pile. Now, instead of throwing away our $20 on something useless, we pool all our money together and make a donation. Each year, one family gets to choose where the money is donated to. This year it's been donated to Medic Canada to provide micro loans to people in Africa. As well, because my family still enjoys the time spent with us all in one room (with 35ish people, that doesn’t always happen) and fun of a friendly competitive gift exchange, we've kept it to something homemade or from your house, to alleviate the costs. Some of the top gifts this year were homemade ice cream, tarts, chocolates, Baileys and lots of yummy baking. This year I hit the jackpot (at least I think I did) and came home with a bunch of canning!! I can’t wait to dive into my pickled carrots.

So, as the festive season arrives, please remember the true meaning of Christmas. Take the time to spend quality time with those that you love. Give to those that are less fortunate. And above all, be thankful for all that you have. We don’t have to look far to realize there’s someone worse off than yourself. It’s amazing; the best way to improve your situation, boost your spirit and to find true joy is to give to others and count all the wonderful blessings in your life.

Merry Christmas to you all! Thank you for being in my life!

Monday, December 7, 2009

Mother Natures Wonder

Well, us Albertans were at the mercy of Mother Nature once again.  It put a huge damper on my plans.  I had a sparkling clean house, fully decorated and my party was cancelled due to the weather.  So I enjoyed my fancy clean house to myself Friday night instead.

Although Mother Nature can cause havoc for us, I can't help but marvel at the power and beauty.  With all the snow and the strong winds, I think we all were shocked to see some of the crazy snow drifts that were left for us to find Saturday morning.

After shovelling my way out Saturday morning (for the second time), we took a walk around were in awe at all the snow!  It was a funny wind this weekend because there were drifts in places that I don't think I've ever seen before at my place.  It was quite entertaining checking them all out.

Here are a few of the photos we took.  The first 2 is of a drift right at the corner of the pen/driveway.  It was just about over Dustin's head and was almost 2 feet above the fence!  Crazy!






This is one out in the horse pen - yucky cold wind still blowing!



Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Truisms

I got this email today and it cracked me up!  Hopefully it will make you giggle too when you realize how many of them are true:

1. There is a great need for sarcasm font.
2. I can't remember the last time I wasn't at least kind of tired.
3. Bad decisions make good stories.
4. How the hell are you supposed to fold a fitted sheet?
5. I would rather try to carry 10 plastic grocery bags in each hand than take 2 trips to bring my groceries in.
6. The only time I look forward to a red light is when I'm trying to finish a text.
7. The letters T and G are very close to each other on a keyboard. This recently became all too apparent to me and consequently I will never be ending a work email with the phrase "Regards" again
8. A recent study has shown that playing beer pong contributes to the spread of mono and the flu. Yeah, if you suck at it.
9. Was learning cursive really necessary?
10. I have a hard time deciphering the fine line between boredom and hunger.
11. Answering the same letter three times or more in a row on a Scantron test is absolutely petrifying.
12. Whenever someone says "I'm not book smart, but I'm street smart", all I hear is "I'm not real smart, but I'm imaginary smart".
13. I love the sense of camaraderie when an entire line of cars teams up to prevent a dick from cutting in at the front. Stay strong, brothers!
14. Every time I have to spell a word over the phone using 'as in' examples, I will undoubtedly draw a blank and sound like a complete idiot. Today I had to spell my boss's last name to an attorney and said "Yes that's G as in...(10 second lapse)..ummm...Goonies"
15. What would happen if I hired two private investigators to follow each other?
16. While driving yesterday I saw a banana peel in the road and instinctively swerved to avoid it...thanks Mario Kart.
17. MapQuest really needs to start their directions on #5. Pretty sure I know how to get out of my neighborhood.
18. Obituaries would be a lot more interesting if they told you how the person died.
19. I find it hard to believe there are actually people who get in the shower first and THEN turn on the water.
20. Whenever I'm Facebook stalking someone and I find out that their profile is public I feel like a kid on Christmas morning who just got the Red Ryder BB gun that I always wanted. 546 pictures? Don't mind if I do!
21. If Carmen San Diego and Waldo ever got together, their offspring would probably just be completely invisible.
22. Why is it that during an ice-breaker, when the whole room has to go around and say their name and where they are from, I get so incredibly nervous? I know my name, I know where I'm from, this shouldn't be a problem....
23. You never know when it will strike, but there comes a moment at work when you've made up your mind that you just aren't doing anything productive for the rest of the day.
24. Can we all just agree to ignore whatever comes after DVDs? I don't want to have to restart my collection.
25. There's no worse feeling than that millisecond you're sure you are going to die after leaning your chair back a little too far.
26. 'm always slightly terrified when I exit out of Word and it asks me if I want to save any changes to my ten page research paper that I swear I did not make any changes to.
27. "Do not machine wash or tumble dry" means I will never wash this ever.
28. I hate leaving my house confident and looking good and then not seeing anyone of importance the entire day. What a waste.
29. I like all of the music in my iTunes, except when it's on shuffle, then I like about one in every fifteen songs in my iTunes.
30. Why is a school zone 15 mph? That seems like the optimal cruising speed for pedophiles...
31. As a driver I hate pedestrians, and as a pedestrian I hate drivers, but no matter what the mode of transportation, I always hate cyclists.
32. Sometimes I'll look down at my watch 3 consecutive times and still not know what time it is.
33. It should probably be called Unplanned Parenthood.
34. I keep some people's phone numbers in my phone just so I know not to answer when they call.
35. I think that if, years down the road when I'm trying to have a kid, I find out that I'm sterile, most of my disappointment will stem from the fact that I was not aware of my condition in college

Thursday, November 19, 2009

Science Experiment - Conclusion

Well after actually 3 weeks of my science experiement, here are my findings:

Observation: Although my control wasn't quite as controlled as I had planned (I never seem to be able to get to bed a regular time.  Plus throw in some fun weekend nights - it's impossible), I feel that I did notice a difference.  Also, another variable that I didn't count on was doing work outs in the morning.  My goal is to get up and walk/run everymorning.  However this never seemed to happen as often as I'd like, as it it only happened 3 times in the last 3 weeks, ha ha, oops!  However I do feel that it played a part in my energy levels for those day.  Days that I decided I"d get up as soon as my alarm went off were reletively easy to get out of bed.  Days that I was going to snooze, even after 3, 4 or even sometimes 5 snoozes, I still was having to drag my ass out of bed.  It just never seemed like enough.

Results: I believe there is a difference in how much I struggled to get out of bed when I got out of bed at first alarm as opposed to snoozing numerous times.

Conclusion: After my extension and labour intensive experiment (ha ha, ya right), I have come to the conclusion that snoozing is infact a FOE.  Although at the time it feels glorious and you feel like you are really cheating the system by getting to sleep longer than planned (where in reality it is totally planned because I set my alarm so that I can have a distinct number of snoozes before I really have to get up and get ready so I"m not late for work - therefore, this whole process may start an hour earlier than I actually need to wake up), I feel that snoozing does not increase energy levels or limit my sleepyness for the day.  And, even though I've snoozed and unrealistically made myself feel like I got extra sleep, I still struggle to drag my carcass out of bed when it's time for me to really get up. So what did I gain.  That last hour of snoozing interuppted my last good hour of sleep. 

When I set my alarm for the correct time and knew I was getting up right away, I didn't have a sense of regret for having to leave my warm cozy bed and start my day the same way as if I had snoozed.  It just was! It wasn't a struggle!  My carcass found it much easier to get it's self up and at'em!

My energy levels and tiredess throughout the day didn't seem to depend on the snooze, or not to snooze.  They seemed to coincide with simply how much sleep I got.  And just like 'they' say (does anyone ever wonder who 'they' are....I'd like to be a 'they' someday I think, you'd get to take so much credit for things although that means you'd also get blamed for many things as well, oh well), 8 hours of sleep is best!!  This girl definetly needs her beauty sleep (you don't think I just naturally look this good do you, ha ha)

Anyways, thanks for partaking in my experiment for you commenters.  Would love to hear more comments on your snoozing, or no snoozing habits.  Do you get a full 8 hours of sleep?